Shedding The Victim Mentality

How to let go of the mindset of victim hood

Yes, we’ve all been a victim in a circumstance we couldn’t control. As a survivor of multiple traumas such as sexual abuse as a child and then physical and mental abuse in an abusive marriage, it was difficult for me for a long time to see myself as a survivor and not a victim.

But here is the truth about shedding the victim mentality. When you realize that there were circumstances you couldn’t control, you are also able to realize that you are no longer the victim of the past and you can start to forgive yourself for letting that situation control how you see yourself.

You can only do one of two things. You can either continue to view yourself as a victim of that circumstance, or you can see yourself as a survivor.

In my abusive marriage, I chose to be there and stay there until I found the strength to understand that the only one keeping me there was me. In fact, I knew exactly who my ex-husband was before I married him and I chose to marry him anyway. And so, I chose to be with him and I chose to see myself as a victim in that marriage. But when I finally decided to leave I realized that I created the circumstance of that situation and I made myself the victim and I suppose I felt comfortable in the role of the victim so I could say it’s not my fault in reference to…